There’s a good reason why the courts focus on the best interests of the children during a divorce. For parents, the goal is to make sure that life is as enjoyable and stable as possible for the kids. Focusing on their best interests when considering things like custody arrangements, parenting plans and child support needs is an excellent place to begin.
But what about after the divorce gets finalized? What else should you do to help the kids during this new stage in their lives? A few things you can do to help them include:
- Being reliable and dependable. Life is complicated. They need to know they can trust you to be there when you say you will.
- Keeping negative thoughts and comments to yourself, even if they’re about your ex. The kids don’t need to see you fight or hear you complain about adult problems when they’re trying to form relationships with both parents.
- Considering all options to help them cope. For some children, this could mean working with a therapist or a counselor.
- Splitting time between you and your ex. Unless there are worrisome issues, such as abuse, it’s typically best for the kids to stay involved with both parents.
- Being honest. Talk to your kids openly about these changes and the reasons behind them. Of course, you can cater your honesty based on their ages, but don’t lie.
- Never making the children feel bad or guilty. They didn’t choose this, so don’t put them in the middle or act like any of it is their fault.
If you resolve to do these things, you’ll really create the optimal life for your kids. Make sure you know what legal steps can help you achieve these goals.
Source: Huffington Post, “The 18 Best Things You Can Do For Your Kids After Divorce,” Brittany Wong, accessed Feb. 16, 2018