To Both Parents

Although there may be bitterness and animosity between you, this should not be inflicted on your children. the separation deprives them of the full time direction and guidance of both parents. As a result, they are usually the losers. The image of two good parents can be accomplished by the following.

The custodial parent must prepare the children, both physically and mentally for the visitation, and have them available at the time mutually agreed upon , or at the time ordered by the court.

Make Your Visitation As Pleasant As Possible

In the event is not possible to abide by the visitation agreement due to circumstances beyond the control of either parent, be adults and workout a substitution period. Give adequate notice, usually 24 hours, unless otherwise specified by the court, if you are unable to keep your visitation. The children are expecting you and if you fail to show, they may be very disappointed

• Work for the spiritual well being, health, happiness, and safety of your children.
• Do not make promises to the children you can't keep.
• Don't question your children regarding the activities of your spouse.
• Do not poison the children's minds against either parent. this can be extremely harmful to you and your children.
• Do not use the children to justify your bitterness and animosity against your spouse. The children learn fast and may use one parent against the other.
• Do not expose your children to any member of the opposite sex. the children may be to stressed or resentful.
• Do not visit your children if you have been drinking.
• Do not attempt to visit with your children at unreasonable hours.
• Be prompt in picking up and returned the children in compliance with the times specified by the court or by agreement.
• Avoid confrontation and arguments with your former spouse when either picking up or returning the children.
• Do not leave your children during a visitation for a extended time. remember this is your visitation - take advantage of it.
• Keep in mind -- your conduct and attitude toward visitation is important in sharing the lives of your child and in the determination of their destiny.